The sage is sharp but does not cut, pointed but does not pierce, forthright but does not offend, bright but does not dazzle.
As for the "proper way:" it is the beginning of disorder.
If you worry more for others' beliefs, then you will be their slave.
Strong winds do not last all morning, hard rains do not last all day.
When a nation is filled with strife, then do patriots flourish.
Conduct your triumph as a funeral.