The more clearly we recognize how deep our commitment to self-protection operates in our relational style and the more courageously we face the ugliness of protecting ourselves rather than loving others, the more we'll shift our direction.

The degree to which we openly express our feelings should be governed, not by fear of reprisal, but by our commitment to loving others.

Maturity involves two elements: 1) immediate obedience in specific situations and 2) long-range character growth.

The root of all our personal and emotional difficulties is a lack of togetherness... I therefore believe that the surest route to overcoming problems and becoming the people we were meant to be is reconnecting with God and with our community.

The marriage relationship is one of God's creations for building up people. It gives husbands and wives the chance to minister to an immortal human being in a uniquely intimate fashion. To enjoy the meaningfulness of marriage, then, requires a once-made but ongoing commitment of mutual ministry to our mates and the more we seize them, the more meaning our marriage will have.

Other forms of relating to God that have unique value in connecting us to Him include contemplative prayer and centering prayer.

We can't always make life work. But we can always draw near to God. There is a different way to approach our problems. There is a NEW WAY to live.