What I often say to people who are quick to say I’m not a feminist is if you think you’re not a feminist, give it all back.

Over the years, I've found that I either live life or write about it. I can't seem to do both simultaneously - I have to do it sequentially. When I write incessantly, I lose touch with the issues and passions that fuel the work. But when I get too involved in organizations or movement endeavors, I almost forget that I'm a writer. It's a constant struggle to find a balance between these two worlds - the solitary writing life and the life of a social justice activist.

If knowledge is power, clandestine knowledge is power squared; it can be withheld, exchanged, and leveraged.

Housework is the only activity at which men are allowed to be consistently inept because they are thought to be so competent at everything else.

Control is a big issue when you're sick. It's the first thing you lose - other losses come later.

Mothers remember a child's first words, and quote them in tones usually reserved for Byron.

A family stitched together with love seldom unravels.