Adulthood isn't an award they'll give you for being a good child. You can waste years, trying to get someone to give that respect to you, as though it were a sort of promotion or raise in pay. If only you do enough, if only you are good enough. No. You have to just take it. Give it to yourself, I suppose. Say, I'm sorry you feel like that and walk away. But that's hard
Lois McMaster BujoldExperience suggests it doesn't matter so much how you got here, as what you do after you arrive.
Lois McMaster BujoldAs the week wore on, Ivan contemplated the merits of inertia as a problem-solving technique with growing favor
Lois McMaster Bujold