I have a catch-phrase to describe my plot-generation technique -- 'What's the worst possible thing I can do to these people?'
Lois McMaster BujoldAdulthood isn't an award they'll give you for being a good child. You can waste years, trying to get someone to give that respect to you, as though it were a sort of promotion or raise in pay. If only you do enough, if only you are good enough. No. You have to just take it. Give it to yourself, I suppose. Say, I'm sorry you feel like that and walk away. But that's hard
Lois McMaster Bujold