Abuse counselors say of the abusive client: โWhen he looks at himself in the morning and sees his dirty face, he sets about washing the mirror.
Lundy BancroftPhysical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that's physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical freedom and safety as a way to control you.
Lundy BancroftNever believe a man's claim that he has to harm his partner in order to protect her; only abusers think this way.
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