The more effort we make to appreciate and perceive reality, the larger and more accurate our maps will be. But many do not want to make this effort.

We must be willing to fail and to appreciate the truth that often "Life is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery to be lived.

I guess if you want to know one single thing I'm about, it's that I'm against easy answers.

While I generally find that great myths are great precisely because they represent and embody great universal truths, the myth of romantic love is a dreadful lie. Perhaps it is a necessary lie in that it ensures the survival of the falling-in-love experience that traps us into marriage. But as a psychiatrist I weep in my heart almost daily for the ghastly confusion and suffering that this myth fosters. Millions of people waste vast amounts of energy desperately and futilely attempting to make the reality of their lives conform to the unreality of the myth.

Commitment is inherent in any genuinely loving relationship.

Although I was raised in a profoundly secular home, I had a belief, an awareness of God, from as far back as I can remember.

Often the most loving thing we can do when a friend is in pain is to share the pain-to be there even when we have nothing to offer except our presence and even when being there is painful to ourselves.