Integrity, like humility, is a quality which vanishes the moment we are conscious of it in ourselves. We see it only in others.
Madeleine L'EngleSevere illness isolates those in close contact with it, because it inevitably narrows the focus of concern. To a certain extent this can lead to healing, but not if the circle of concern is so tight that it cannot be broken into, or out of.
Madeleine L'EngleWhen a bride insists on telling her lover everything, I suspect she is looking for a father, not a husband.
Madeleine L'EngleIt's a very American trait, this wanting people to think well of us. It's a young want, and I am ashamed of it in myself. I am not always a good daughter, even though my lacks are in areas different from her complaints. Haven't I learned yet that the desire to be perfect is always disastrous and, at the least, loses me in the mire of false guilt?
Madeleine L'Engle