As I say so often, “Observe and wait.” Sometimes you may even find out that what you believed the infant wanted was only your assumption. It is natural to make mistakes and easy to misunderstand pre-verbal children. Nevertheless, it is important to keep trying

An infant always learns. The less we interfere with the natural process of learning, the more we can observe how much infants learn all the time.

Children raised with respect and inner direction tend to play well in groups, at times quite peacefully, each involved in her own project or involved with the other chidren.

By closely supervising our infants, by allowing them to do what they are capable of, by restraining ourselves from rescuing them too often, by waiting and waiting and waiting, by giving minimal help when they really need it, we allow our infants to learn and grow at their own time and in their own way. I believe that, no matter how much and how fast the world changes, a well-grounded, competent, and confident person is best equipped to adapt to it. This is our goal.

When you hold an infant, hold him not just with your body, but with your mind and heart.

Let the child be the scriptwriter, the director and the actor in his own play.

Sadness, discomfort, frustration -- they are all valid human emotions. Why would we want to suppress them?