I hope I am not too repetitive. However, coming to terms with death is part of the general human situation.
I, personally, have found reading a continual support to writing.
People can say what they like about the eternal verities, love and truth and so on, but nothing's as eternal as the dishes.
In a way, the characters often do take over.
I know things are unbearable but in spite of that we have to bear them.
Reading is very creative - it's not just a passive thing. I write a story; it goes out into the world; somebody reads it and, by reading it, completes it.