Connections are made slowly, sometimes they grow underground.
If sex is a war, I am a conscientious objector: I will not play.
I don't apologize for being sexually adventurous. Why not? It was often fun. When it wasn't - I didn't continue what wasn't pleasant.
Shared laughter is erotic too.
There are obviously a great many ways to organize some fraction of the material in a life.
The price of seeing is silence.