A wife who lets herself go and is not sexually available to her husband in the ways that the Song of Songs is so frank about is not responsible for her husband's sin, but she may not be helping him either.
Mark DriscollWhile this may look loving, when we struggle with an idol of dependence, weโre in fact not loving people as much as weโre using them to fulfill our need to belong, be liked, and be desired. This explains why some friends and family members can be so demanding, smothering, and needy. It also explains why weโre so easily inflated by praise and deflated by criticism. Itโs as if others have the ability to determine our identity for that day based on a word or even a glance
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