Uncovering your real desires can be terrifying. It can also set you spectacularly free.
Mark EpsteinTo be free, to come to terms with our lives, we have to have a direct experience of ourselves as we really are, warts and all.
Mark EpsteinAnxiety and desire are two, often conflicting, orientations to the unknown. Both are tilted toward the future. Desire implies a willingness, or a need, to engage this unknown, while anxiety suggests a fear of it. Desire takes one out of oneself, into the possibility or relationship, but it also takes one deeper into oneself. Anxiety turns one back on oneself, but only onto the self that is already known.
Mark EpsteinThe willingness to face traumas - be they large, small, primitive or fresh - is the key to healing from them. They may never disappear in the way we think they should, but maybe they donโt need to. Trauma is an ineradicable aspect of life. We are human as a result of it, not in spite of it.
Mark EpsteinWhen we seek happiness through accumulation, either outside of ourselves-from other people, relationships, or material goods-or from our own self-development, we are missing the essential point. In either case we are trying to find completion. But according to Buddhism, such a strategy is doomed. Completion comes not from adding another piece to ourselves but from surrendering our ideas of perfection.
Mark Epstein