Man wishes to be confirmed in his being by man, and wishes to have a presence in the being of the otherโฆ. Secretly and bashfully he watches for a YES which allows him to be and which can come to him only from one human person to another.
Martin BuberYou can rake the muck this way, rake the muck that way-- it will always be muck. Have I sinned or have I not sinned? In the time I am brooding over it, I could be stringing pearls for the delight of Heaven
Martin BuberAbout what mainly constituted what you ask, it was something other. It was just a certain inclination to meet people. And as far as possible, to change something in the other, but also to let me be changed by him. At any event, I had no resistance, I put no resistance to it. I already began as a young man. I felt I have not the right to want to change another if I am not open to be changed by him as far as it is legitimate.
Martin Buber