If all you got is "I don't want to be that" then sell insurance.
The more you make this world about you, the more miserable you will be.
I think people can get a little weirded out by pain, suffering, and death. They don't know what to do so they end up saying things that are hurtful to people who have experienced loss.
God is more interested in declaring than explaining.
The Christian views trials as a pathway to maturity.
God's response to the belittlement of his name, from the beginning of time, has been the sacrifice of Jesus Christ on a Roman cross.