I like to know what's happening.
You can't really know where you are going until you know where you have been.
Forgive yourself - no one else will.
If you must look back, do so forgivingly. If you will look forward, do so prayerfully. But the wisest course would be to be present in the present gratefully.
Yet it is only love which sets us free.
Those of us who submitted or surrendered our ideas and dreams and identities to the 'leaders' must take back our rights, our identities, our responsibilities.