Be patient with yourself. Don't make the loss harder by thinking you should be a certain way, or have bounced back, etc.
Meghan O'RourkeOne of the grubby truths about a loss is that you don't just mourn the dead person, you mourn the person you got to be when the lost one was alive. This loss might even be what affects you the most.
Meghan O'RourkeMuch of Hamlet is about the precise kind of slippage the mourner experiences: the difference between being and seeming, the uncertainty about how the inner translates into the outer, the sense that one is expected to perform grief palatably. (If you donโt seem sad, people worry; but if you are grief-stricken, people flinch away from your pain.)
Meghan O'RourkeFor sure, the funeral industry seems intensely cynical to me and I don't think it is HELPING people mourn.
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