Letting go of the cozy stories you've been carrying around is devastating. But there's more room for new stuff after you do it.
Melissa FebosA lot of the experiences I write about could be described as grasping for boundaries, trying to find the limits of things.
Melissa FebosIt has been my experience that the people I judge most harshly are the ones in whom I recognize some part of myself.
Melissa FebosI more seriously considered publishing it under a pseudonym than I considered publishing it as fiction. I think the decision to write it as nonfiction happened at the very outset of the process, because the overwhelming impetus for writing this book was to understand what the experience meant, and to override my own reductions and rationalizations, whatever story I had that was not true. It didn't sit well with me and I needed to answer that. That's sort of the reason I write everything.
Melissa Febos