A lot of the experiences I write about could be described as grasping for boundaries, trying to find the limits of things.
Melissa FebosYou don't have to write like David Foster Wallace or James Baldwin or Maggie Nelson - indeed, you shouldn't. Those writers are doing it better than you ever could.
Melissa FebosAbandonment by a lover won't kill us. But it awakens the parts of us that remember when it could.
Melissa FebosBecause of the irresistible nature of our own Imagos, I think the replication of it in music is a siren song - we love those tormented songs, and we listen to them over and over and over the way that we smash ourselves into our lovers, or the same kind of lover, over and over. That drive is tireless, until it is resolved. And we can "enjoy" it safely through music, which is a simulacrum we have power over.
Melissa Febos