Friendship with a man is friendship with his virtue, and does not admit of assumptions of superiority.
MenciusPeople are eager to comment on something when they themselves are not in the situation of doing it.
MenciusWhen I say that all men have the mind which cannot bear to see the suffering of others, my meaning is illustrated this way: when two men suddenly see a child about to fall into a well, they all have a feeling of alarm and distress, not to gain friendship with the child's parents, nor to seek the praise of their neighbors and friends. From such a case, we see that a man without the feeling of commiseration is not a man. The feeling of commiseration is the beginning of humanity.
Mencius