Once the blinders are off, it's rather hard to go back to seeing things the way you used to.
Mercedes LackeyTo treat a person like a carpet, it is necessary that one do the walking, and one allow himself to be walked on. --Shin'a'in saying
Mercedes LackeyThe great love is gone. There are still little loves - friend to friend, brother to sister, student to teacher. Will you deny yourself comfort at the hearthfire of a cottage because you may no longer sit by the fireplace of a palace? Will you deny yourself to those who reach out to you in hopes of warming themselves at your hearthfire?
Mercedes LackeyGetting angry over something that won't change is like seeing what happens if you hit your hand with a hammer over and over again, and being surprised each time when it hurts. So you might as well stop doing it.
Mercedes Lackey