One often learns more from ten days of agony than from ten years of contentment.

The job of a friend is not to decide what should be done, not to run interference or pick up the slack. The job of a friend is to understand, and to supply energy and hope, and in doing so to keep those they value on their feet a little longer, so that they can fight another round and grow strong in themselves.

One can never change the past, only the hold it has on you, and while nothing in your life is reversible, you can reverse it nevertheless.

Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you’d like them to be, although often they turn out the same

Our strength is in our dreams, and those who do not dare to dream damn themselves.

If there are no endings, there are no beginnings and you see no new lands, so for everything that's lost, there is usually something gained.

There are problems connected with infidelity and problems connected with being faithful at any cost, and I am for letting those concerned choose the problems they'd prefer. There need not be one rule for all. Infidelity is enlarging and fragmenting and very very dangerous, but it has been known to retrieve people as well as marriages, so it can't be only bad.