Do women dress for men or women? I’ve always wondered why that eternally provocative question is put in terms of approval - as if the heart of the matter, the answer, were indeed a question of approval by either sex. But the question is never satisfactorily answered because it is incorrectly posed. It’s disapproval, the fear of it, that motivates most women, and with disapproval it doesn’t matter where it comes from.

I think biologically we are attracted to more than one person, but given society and our needs, monogamy works better.

I'm sure it's why I'm such an odd duck in my feminist generation, because I've always been equally fair to men.

Oh, I know all about my mother and me,' you may say. 'All that business with my mother was over years ago.' You don't and it wasn't.

Spontaneous love admits errors, hesitations and human failings. It can be tested and repaired.

After sex, men fear too much intimacy; they want to separate again. Women want to talk, to continue the merging, melting fusion into one. Postcoital conversations keep the woman's power alive. Through unconscious severance, by falling asleep, the man regains his self.

To say something nice about themselves, this is the hardest thing in the world for people to do.