Do women dress for men or women? I’ve always wondered why that eternally provocative question is put in terms of approval - as if the heart of the matter, the answer, were indeed a question of approval by either sex. But the question is never satisfactorily answered because it is incorrectly posed. It’s disapproval, the fear of it, that motivates most women, and with disapproval it doesn’t matter where it comes from.

All my writing has been an effort to sort out the paradoxes of my life.

Blaming mother is just a negative way of clinging to her still.

Oh, I know all about my mother and me,' you may say. 'All that business with my mother was over years ago.' You don't and it wasn't.

When I stopped seeing my mother with the eyes of a child, I saw the woman who helped me give birth to myself.

Inside every adult male is a denied little boy.

No man can be really free in bed with a woman who is not.