It would be hard to name a more certain sign of poor self-esteem than the need to perceive some other group as inferior.

One of the most significant characteristics of healthy self esteem is that it is the state of one who is not at war either with himself or with others.

We must become what we wish to teach.

To love is to see myself in you and to wish to celebrate myself with you. What I love is the embodiment of my values in another person. Love is an act of self-assertion, self-expression and a celebration of being alive.

The feeling that "I am enough" does not mean that I have nothing to learn, nothing further to achieve, and nowhere to grow to. It means that I accept myself, that I am not on trial in my own eyes, that I value and respect myself. This is not an act of indulgence but of courage.

Loving consciously does not mean subjecting your relationship to endless analysis. It means something much simpler: paying attention. Noticing. This requires presence.

If you have high self-esteem, you might still know times of emotional suffering, but less often and with faster recovery-your resilience is greater.