Love should be pure. If you have love for someone you won't see bad points of the other person, never.

If love is killed, joy is lost. You cannot have joy without love.

What you have to get is a ocean of love within your heart and to seek that in others also.

Dharma gives you the balance. It gives you the establishment into proper behavior, proper understanding, proper living, but it doesn't give you the completion of your journey. It doesn't give you the satisfaction of reaching the destination and your personality is still incomplete. So one has to have the experience of the spirit.

Now the stage today is to know that Self Realization gives you experiences and then your faith is established. Not blind but open enlightened faith.

The truth which can be actualized after Self Realization is that you are not this body, this mind, this conditioning from the past, this ego, these emotions, but that you are the pure spirit.

There is no need to condemn yourself in any way, or to elate yourself, but just be your Spirit. The best way to be with your Spirit is to forgive.