Isn’t that what it means to be civilized? That you can wait to get what you want?

Oh, I'll live Ender's life, too. It's so much more interesting than my own." ~Val

Ender Wiggin must believe that no matter what happens, no adult will ever, ever step in to help him in any way.

Welcome to the human race. Nobody controls his own life, Ender. The best you can do is choose to fill the roles given you by good people, by people who love you.

In my view, suicide is not really a wish for life to end.' What is it then?' It is the only way a powerless person can find to make everybody else look away from his shame. The wish is not to die, but to hide.

The essence of training is to allow error without consequence.

Good people aren't good because they never cause harm to others. They're good because they treat others the best way they know how, with the understanding that they have.