Valentine had long ago observed that in a society that expected chastity and fidelity, like Lusitania, the adolescents who controlled and channeled their youthful passions were the ones who grew up to be both strong and civilized. Adolescents in such a community who were either too weak to control themselves or too contemptuous of society's norms to try usually ended up being either sheep or wolves- either mindless members of the herd or predators who took what they could and gave nothing.
Orson Scott CardTo have a choice at all is to be free - even when the choice is between two terrible things.
Orson Scott CardBut Father has also taught him: Treat a man as if he had a fine reputation to protect, and he will usually endeavor to deserve it.
Orson Scott Card