Know yourself and go in swinging.
That's the thing I'm learning about being thrown out on yer own. Nobody does nothing for you. If you don't change it, it don't get changed.
And otherwise normal men become monsters, too.
There is not always a good guy. Nor is there always a bad one. Most people are somewhere in between.
Sometimes people need to lie to themselves most of all.
You tell a man the truth about himself and, well, they find they have trouble accepting it.