My kind of nightmare quote is from Deborah Tolman, who does research on girls and desire and is, I think, brilliant. She told me that by the time girls are teenagers, when she asks them how sexual experience made them feel, they respond by how they think they looked; they think that how they look is how they feel.

The point of creativity is to express and challenge yourself, to make meaning, to embrace your life.

But it is Bella, not the supernaturals she falls in with, who is the true horror show here, at least as a female role model.

Sexualization is the performance of sexuality, the performance of sexiness. Girls are super good at that now.

I'll tell you what is insidious about the Disney Princess, besides the fact that if you look into their merchandise, the 26,000 items, you're always finding books that are about "my perfect wedding." It's what it puts girls on the path for. And that it poses as something that protects girls, or staves off premature sexualization, when I think it primes them for it. I don't know where to put that on the continuum exactly. I guess eight?

While I completely disagree with the "purity" concept, it was the only place I saw fathers talking to girls about their expectations and attitudes to sex and expressing love and support. I didn't see liberal dads having similar conversations with their daughters.

We're afraid if girls find out sex is pleasurable they'll stop being gatekeepers, they'll go out and have sex.