We spend all our energy and waste our lives trying to re-create these zones of safety, which are always falling apart. That's the essence of samsara - the cycle of suffering that comes from continuing to seek happiness in all the wrong places.
Pema ChodronTonglen dissolves your solid sense of "I'm the wise person, I'm going to help this poor, unfortunate loser."
Pema ChodronThe very first noble truth of the Buddha points out that suffering is inevitable for human beings as long as we believe that things lastโthat they donโt disintegrate, that they can be counted on to satisfy our hunger for security.
Pema ChodronWE ALREADY HAVE everything we need. There is no need for self-improvement. All these trips that we lay on ourselvesโthe heavy-duty fearing that weโre bad and hoping that weโre good, the identities that we so dearly cling to, the rage, the jealousy and the addictions of all kindsโnever touch our basic wealth. They are like clouds that temporarily block the sun. But all the time our warmth and brilliance are right here. This is who we really are. We are one blink of an eye away from being fully awake.
Pema Chodron