Tonglen dissolves your solid sense of "I'm the wise person, I'm going to help this poor, unfortunate loser."
Pema ChodronWhen we touch the center of sorrow, when we sit with discomfort without trying to fix it, when we stay present to the pain of disapproval or betrayal and let it soften us, these are times that we connect with bohdichitta.
Pema ChodronThe second noble truth says that this resistance is the...mechanism of what we call ego, that resisting life causes suffering.
Pema ChodronDon't worry about achieving. Don't worry about perfection. Just be there each moment as best you can. When you realize you've wandered off again, simply very lightly acknowledge that. This light touch is the golden key to reuniting with our openness.
Pema ChodronIt's hard to know whether to laugh or to cry at the human predicament. Here we are with so much wisdom and tenderness, andโwithout even knowing itโwe cover it over to protect ourselves from insecurity. Although we have the potential to experience the freedom of a butterfly, we mysteriously prefer the small and fearful cocoon of ego.
Pema Chodron