When people are hurting, what they really need is someone who is fully there for them - not someone who is condescending or officious. The only way for you to be there for them is by facing your fear or anger, whatever feelings cause you to shut down.

So war and peace start in the human heart. Whether that heart is open or whether that heart closes has global implications.

When we resist change, it’s called suffering. But when we can completely let go and not struggle against it, when we can embrace the groundlessness of our situation and relax into it’s dynamic quality, that’s called enlightenment

Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth

Unconditional good heart toward others is not even a possibility unless we attend to our own demons.

What if rather than being disheartened by the ambiguity, the uncertainty of life, we accepted it and relaxed into it?

When Things Fall Apart” and I quote “Life is a good teacher and a good friend. Things are always in transition, if we could only realize it. Nothing ever sums itself up in the way that we like to dream about. The off-center, in-between state is an ideal situation, a situation in which we don't get caught and we can open our hearts and minds beyond limit. It's a very tender, nonaggressive, open-ended state of affairs.