I've seen women essentially martyr themselves for the good of the future and the good of their children and, again, the good of love. That shouldn't be happening but it shows you the strength and power of it, and the fact that it will take over a woman's sense of her own survival. Men have taken advantage of that for hundreds and probably thousands of years.

Start from the bottom up.

Thinking that everything must be bigger to matter is a problem. Small power emanates and disseminates in a very different way.

The world over, give a guy money and it goes to drinking, gambling, and women. When you give a woman money, it goes to feeding, clothing, helping people.

Mistakes are very seldom permanent, most of them can be fixed with less difficulty and drama than one imagines, and there's nothing shameful about them. There is, however, something sad and limiting about the fear of making them.

Shift the dynamic as much as you can, so you hear the truth from people that have lived experience. Listen intently and honor their experience.

What may be on the surface looks like one thing but it's often a much larger problem.