Whatever shift is necessary is dependent on the scale on which it can be implemented, which is to say in your local community and family.

Shift the dynamic as much as you can, so you hear the truth from people that have lived experience. Listen intently and honor their experience.

Two hundred years ago, we were all busy farming and we all had a role to play. The home was a unit of production. We made food and all the things we needed, we took care of our kids and were connected to purpose in our evolution. When the Industrial Revolution came along, it took away a lot of the work the men had done.

Don't walk in with a colonial mindset and say, "We know your problem and we're going to fix it."

True collaborative, nurturing, and safe power is a combining of forces that can only happen on a pretty small scale.

Our individual wholeness includes a masculine and a feminine side, which are slowly (or not so slowly) wrung out of us, depending on which gender you are.

I've seen women essentially martyr themselves for the good of the future and the good of their children and, again, the good of love. That shouldn't be happening but it shows you the strength and power of it, and the fact that it will take over a woman's sense of her own survival. Men have taken advantage of that for hundreds and probably thousands of years.