I played hockey in North Dakota growing up and watch a lot of that.

Pau is one of the best big men in the game. I mean, Pau Gasol is going to be in the Hall of Fame.

And yet as a coach, I know that being fixated on winning (or more likely, not losing) is counterproductive, especially when it causes you to lose control of your emotions. What’s more, obsessing about winning is a loser’s game: The most we can hope for is to create the best possible conditions for success, then let go of the outcome. The ride is a lot more fun that way.

What moves me is watching young men bond together and tap into the magic that arises when they focus with their whole heart and soul on something greater than themselves. Once you've experienced that, it's something you never forget.

Approach the game with no preset agendas and you'll probably come away surprised at your overall efforts.

Basketball is a simple game. Your goal is penetration, get the ball close to the basket, and there are three ways to do that. Pass, dribble and offensive rebound.

Leadership is not about forcing your will on others. It's about mastering the art of letting go.