The pleasure isn't in owning the person. The pleasure is this. Having another contender in the room with you.
Philip RothAll that we don't know is astonishing. Even more astonishing is what passes for knowing.
Philip RothEverybody who flashed the signs of loyalty he took to be loyal. Everybody who flashed the signs of intelligence he took to be intelligent. And so he had failed to see into his daughter, failed to see into his wife, failed to see into his one and only mistressโprobably had never even begun to see into himself
Philip Roth