I’m interested in what people do with the chaos in their lives and how they respond to it, and simultaneously what they do with what they feel like are limitations. If they push against these limitations, will they wind up in the realm of chaos, or will they push against limitations and wind up in the world of freedom?

You can no more make someone tell the truth than you can force someone to love you.

Because that is when you love somebody - when you see them being game in the face of the worst. Not courageous. Not heroic. Just game.

And as he spoke, I was thinking, 'the kind of stories that people turn life into, the kind of lives people turn stories into.

I have a slogan I use when I get anxious writing, which happens quite a bit: ‘the ordeal is part of the commitment.’ It’s one of my mantras. It makes a lot of things doable.

It's the little questions from women about tappets that finally push men over the edge.

The secret to living in the rush of the world with a minimum of pain is to get as many people as possible to string along with your delusions.