I started out writing largely about my own sex life, but I always tried to bring that around to the bigger picture, and how I was or wasn't in sync with the rest of the culture. And I think people appreciated that I was frank and honest about sex, but also political.

Do whatever you want, and don't worry about what everyone else is into.

I'd really like to see smart sex writing, writing that can take sex apart and try to put it back together, that doesn't just put a box around "sex writing" and give it glaring neon lights but assumes that sex is part of everything else in our lives.

At the end of the day, no one knows everything about sex, we all have things we can learn.

I want my work to be as inclusive as possible, because sex isn't just for some selected group of people, it's for everyone, and I'm open to reading about and learning from all kinds of folks.

I like sex writing that makes me think, makes me cringe, makes me angry, makes me look at it in a new way.

I think some of the best sex writing is going to come from the unexpected sources, not the same old same old. Like I'd love to see a memoir by a submissive man, because we've seen one from a professional submissive and dommes and strippers and hookers. I'd love to see more men writing frankly, not jokingly, about sex.