You may regret calamities if you can thereby help the sufferer, but if you cannot, mind your own business.
Ralph Waldo EmersonDear to us are those who love us... but dearer are those who reject us as unworthy, for they add another life; they build a heaven before us whereof we had not dreamed, and thereby supply to us new powers out of the recesses of the spirit, and urge us to new and unattempted performances.
Ralph Waldo Emerson