Pain is the mind. It's the mind. It's the thoughts of the mind.
Treat everyone you meet like God in drag.
The offering up or cleaning up ego stuff is called purification. Purification is the act of letting go. This is done out of discriminative awareness. That is, you understand that you are an entity passing through a life in which the entire drama is an offering for your awakening.
A moment comes when "other" is no longer other.
The gift you offer another person is just your being.
My work as a human being is to quiet my mind, open my heart and do what I can to relieve the suffering with as much wisdom, skill, whatever I got.