Words engage our minds, but in the silence we hear the Presence of God.
Coming into the place of Soul-awareness is coming home.
The suffering is in the mind. The mind. In the mind. Witness it. From your spiritual heart.
Be patient. You'll know when it's time for you to wake up and move ahead.
The offering up or cleaning up ego stuff is called purification. Purification is the act of letting go. This is done out of discriminative awareness. That is, you understand that you are an entity passing through a life in which the entire drama is an offering for your awakening.
You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing.