So many times each day we support each other informally without ever becoming 'helper' or 'helped.' Perhaps we're finding an article of clothing for a partner, cutting bread for one of the children, collecting the mail for the person at the next desk, holding the coat for someone at a restaurant.
Ram DassCaring is a reflex. Someone slips, your arm goes out. A car is in the ditch, you join others and push... You live, you help.
Ram Dass