The gift you offer another person is just your being.
As we grow in our consciousness.. there will be more compassion and more love. And then... the barriers between people.. between religions.. and between nations will begin to fall.
You can't build joy on a feeling of self-loathing.
What you meet in another being is the projection of your own level of evolution.
The shadow is the greatest teacher for how to come to the light.
It's only when caterpillarness is done that one becomes a butterfly. That again is part of this paradox. You cannot rip away caterpillarness. The whole trip occurs in an unfolding process of which we have no control.