I have found that by looking at what is rewarded and punished, and why, universally - i.e., in nature as well as in humanity - I have been able to learn more about what is "good" and "bad" than by listening to most people's views about good and bad.
Ray DalioI think the basic problem is that everybody thinks they know what the truth is, and sometimes they're even distorting the truth to make their arguments.
Ray DalioBe wary of the arrogant intellectual who comments from the stands without having played on the field.
Ray DalioI also believe that everyone needs to think independently and make their own decisions on what makes the most sense.
Ray DalioIronically, people who suppress the mini-confrontations for fear of conflict tend to have huge conflicts later, which can lead to separation, precisely because they let minor problems fester. On the other hand, people who address the mini-conflicts head-on in order to straighten things out tend to have the great, long-lasting relationships.
Ray DalioNever say anything about a person you wouldn't say to them directly, and don't try people without accusing them to their face. Badmouthing people behind their backs shows a serious lack of integrity and is counterproductive. It doesn't yield any beneficial change, and it subverts both the people you are badmouthing and the environment as a whole.
Ray Dalio