When there is pain, the animal instinct is 'fight or flight' (i.e., to either strike back or run away) - reflect instead. When you can calm yourself down, thinking about the dilemma that is causing you pain will bring you to a higher level and enlighten you, leading to progress.
Ray DalioI found that whenever I encountered a situation, rather than just reacting to it, it was tremendously useful to think carefully about how I should react to it and other situations like it. Besides providing me with more thoughtful responses in each of these cases, approaching things this way provided me and others with guidance on how to deal with similar situations when they came up in the future.
Ray DalioIf you have the power to see things through somebody else's eyes, it's like going from black and white to color or two dimensions to three dimensions.
Ray DalioI believe that dreamers who simply imagine things that would be nice but are not possible donโt sufficiently appreciate the laws of the universe to understand the true implications of their desires, much less how to achieve them.
Ray Dalio