Men must learn how to grieve, or they are inevitably angry or controlling, and they don't even know why.

Every time you choose to love, you have also just chosen to die.

If I'm going to continue to be any kind of spiritual teacher, I've got to go deeper myself. And so for me, [I am] preserving long periods of solitude, silence, prayer, journaling, study, writing. I don't turn on music or the TV unless I really need to.

All great spirituality teaches about letting go of what you don’t need and who you are not. Then, when you can get little enough and naked enough and poor enough, you’ll find that the little place where you really are is ironically more than enough and is all that you need. At that place, you will have nothing to prove to anybody and nothing to protect. That place is called freedom. It’s the freedom of the children of God. Such people can connect with everybody. They don’t feel the need to eliminate anybody . . .

Maturity is the ability to joyfully live in an imperfect world.

I decided years ago that if I'm going to keep teaching contemplation, then the last years of my life should be contemplative.

If you do not transform your wounds you will transmit them.