Men must learn how to grieve, or they are inevitably angry or controlling, and they don't even know why.

Our job as conscious humans is to bring the beauty and goodness of everything to full consciousness, to full delight, to full awareness.

Those who are not true leaders will just affirm people at their own immature level.

If you work with such people almost on the level of spiritual direction, you see that they are people who prefer a world view of order and even punitiveness. And for some reason, there's a feeling that the male psyche is going to give that to them. And if that's your view of religion, which it is for many people, if they've never come to the mystical level, religion is for social order and to maintain social order.

All great spirituality is about what we do with our pain. If we do not transform our pain, we will transmit it to those around us.

The Gospel gives human suffering deep, personal, and cosmic meaning, by connecting our pain to the pain of others and, finally, by connecting us to the very "pain of God".

In terms of soul work, we dare not get rid of the pain before we have learned what it has to teach us.