The most common one-liner in the Bible is, "Do not be afraid." Someone counted, and it occurs 365 times.
Richard RohrI think it's almost necessary for most people to have the freedom to pull back, and then re-enter at an adult level, where they are neither playing the victim nor creating victims, but just participating in calm, adult behavior. Because an awful lot of churches just aren't there at adult Christianity, this seems to be the norm anymore.
Richard Rohr