Me and a book is a party. Me and a book and a cup of coffee is an orgy.

In terms of an identity, an identity reflects an individuality, by definition. And, if there is a quality present, it is recognizable and it can be named. If you can't name it, it means you don't recognize it.

Expectation closes the door to what is happening in the moment.

Music can be transformative, utterly transformative. The act of music is utterly transformative.

So, you can set up an orchestra down this end of the railway station playing one particular area, and simultaneously at the other end something completely different going on. And in the middle they meet, or not, depending.

Music is the cup which holds the wine of silence.

But above that, most mature adults can hold their attention on something for 45 minutes, whether they like it or not. But above that requires training.