The passive ironic attitude is not cool or romantic, but pathetic and destructive.

Twere sin to stain fair Venus' courts with blood

When you understand the fear then you can begin to move past it. So when I hear the people say it's innate, you can't learn it, I just want to hit them in the head.

No one is really going to help you or give you direction. In fact, the odds are against you.

When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.

Only create associations with positive affinities. Make this a rule of life and you will benefit more than from all the therapy in the world.

Be brutal with the past, especially your own, and have no respect for the philosophies that are foisted on you from outside.