To be part of a family, or any community, is to have duties and responsibility, to be bound by the rules of that group.
Robin HobbDon't listen to people who tell you that very few people get published and you won't be one of them. Don't listen to your friend who says you are better that Tolkien and don't have to try any more. Keep writing, keep faith in the idea that you have unique stories to tell, and tell them.
Robin Hobb